Fortunately, my husband and I were already engaged at the time and had been planning a July wedding, a modest celebration, nothing fancy... a Hawaiian Theme ... we wanted a Luau.
In Massachusetts where we live, Mitt Romney our former Republican governor had put into law that everyone needed health insurance. If you didn't have insurance you would be fined. How was I going to afford health insurance?
I cried a lot. My awesome husband had a great idea, "Let's get married now, we can have a shot gun wedding of the 21st Century, for Health Insurance!" Super idea but I was in no shape to plan a wedding. We picked the date, April 11 - 411, just like the number we dial for telephone information.
With only a week to plan our wedding, my husband did all the leg work; I only needed to show up. It wasn't anything big. We married in our living room, wedding crashers and all. The plan was to have the Justice of the Peace come to our house, marry us in the living room with only our mom's present. However, my sister had a different idea, she was coming. When my sister told my nephew, he said, "I'm going!" Then when my brother in law found out that my sister and nephew were crashing my wedding, he wanted to come along too.
Nunan's Florist and asked him if he could make up a bouquet and a few corsarges. Very short notice. He didn't have the flowers. Somehow, he found flowers and made me a beautiful bouquet with matching corsarges for our moms.
Thanks to my wedding crashers, I have a beautiful video of my wedding day. Every time I watch it it makes me cry happy tears. Our wedding vows are words that touched my heart. I married my best friend.
Two years we have been married. It's almost hard to believe that much time has passed, it feels like yesterday that I promised to love my husband forever. He's easy to love.
sold my house, moved, my mom lost her mind along the way, my mother in law didn't like me, now she does, Savita had 16 teeth removed, she's feeling much better, we got two new kittens, I lost 50 pounds, my mom lost 90, my mom has more good days than not so good days, mom sleeps through the night and this weekend...
WE ARE FREE FROM CAREGIVING DUTIES!
God love my sister and her husband... they have taken my mom for 4 days. FOUR days off from being a care giver.... wooo hooo! The first thing on the plan was a lunch date to our favorite Mexican Restaurant where we had Margaritta's... I slept for 12 hours; I can not handle alcohol. Today I feel great.
I sent my mom off with a manual, "How to Take Care of Ma", listing instructions and warnings. What to feed mom, what to avoid. When to give her supplements, what to give her to keep her balanced and knowing the difference between day and night.
Well, my sister didn't read the instruction manual last night. She totally forgot to give my mom the Ashwagandha, 8 drops in a shot glass that is 1/2 full of water. My mom was up at 2, 3, 4, and 5. Ashwagandha helps with insomnia. Now, we all know to never run out of Ashwagandha extract.
Today the birds are chirping, the sun is shining and we have the weekend to ourselves. My mom, she'll see her family this weekend, her Maine family. I'm really excited for her and all of them to get to spend some time with her. Especially now that we've figured out how to give her more good days.
My dream is coming true, my mom is happy and my family is having an opportunity to enjoy some time with Ma before her time on Earth runs out.
Everything is possible when we believe!