tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1879192449061145204.post1675507101821882750..comments2024-01-05T01:05:21.841-05:00Comments on Back Door Logic: Where Is Everyone? Don't I have kids?Susan Higginshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07019940790074997076noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1879192449061145204.post-62801482571659968452009-12-21T06:26:13.930-05:002009-12-21T06:26:13.930-05:00Thank you all for your kind replies.
I am fortu...Thank you all for your kind replies. <br /><br />I am fortunate having one sister who helps when she can. <br /><br />Absolutely no regrets with what I've done to help my mom ... when it's over, I'm out of here, leaving no forwarding address. The next phase of my life is all about my husband and me.Susan Higginshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07019940790074997076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1879192449061145204.post-19587478013949923242009-12-20T23:53:10.308-05:002009-12-20T23:53:10.308-05:00As they say, you can choose your friends, family, ...As they say, you can choose your friends, family, not so much. I was in your shoes, and although not a fun spot, I can assure you. When all is said and done, you will be standing tall with absolutely no regrets. I feel no empathy for those that choose to distance themselves, ignoring, or because of their own fear refuse to face reality. They, unfortunately I would say in a few years (if that long) be the one's beating down your door for advice to help them cope with their loss.<br /><br />Luckily with your mom's condition, those questions will come and go. Divert and distract seemed to work for us. My FIL would always be asking about his deceased daughter. I made her lunches, snacks, and set up beds for her from time to time. <br /><br />Peace be with you and your family (of your choice) this holiday season. There's nothing wrong with shedding tears.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14432499450327388600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1879192449061145204.post-81087283110972022752009-12-20T12:00:25.380-05:002009-12-20T12:00:25.380-05:00I felt so sad reading your post, Sue. I am one of...I felt so sad reading your post, Sue. I am one of your relatives who is now so far away. Even though my current disappointments don't involve immediate family, there is still sadness about friends who let me down when I thought I could count on them.<br /><br />I continue to be amazed at your caregiving abilities.Violet Crumblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03868928469777050678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1879192449061145204.post-68619111106842080282009-12-20T11:21:20.071-05:002009-12-20T11:21:20.071-05:00Sue, I know where you're coming from, I was my...Sue, I know where you're coming from, I was my father's caregiver for the last year of his life, with no help from my 5 siblings.<br />It was very stressful at times, but I wouldn't trade one minute of those very personal times with my Dad. When he passed away in February, I was there, which was only right. I pray for you every day, my friend. Please take care.Lucy Bourquenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1879192449061145204.post-43116309923856260162009-12-20T10:47:17.776-05:002009-12-20T10:47:17.776-05:00I hear the stress in your writing, Sue. It has to...I hear the stress in your writing, Sue. It has to be so very hard from moment to moment. Bless you for what you are handling.gardeningartisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03967362185121896200noreply@blogger.com