tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1879192449061145204.post5392861631511823505..comments2024-01-05T01:05:21.841-05:00Comments on Back Door Logic: It's Not You... It's MeSusan Higginshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07019940790074997076noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1879192449061145204.post-56676860186363044862010-11-10T08:28:43.372-05:002010-11-10T08:28:43.372-05:00@Slyde... did your mom ever put him in the home or...@Slyde... did your mom ever put him in the home or did she change her mind at the last minute?<br /><br />I am finding myself thinking that if I do get in-home help, she can stay with me. Then, I think that maybe if she's in a place with a lot of people she'll be happier. In her demented state, she has become a social butterfly. <br /><br />@Blogitse... Honesty is always best. Initially, it does hurt but in the end, we work things out and everyone is satisfied.Susan Higginshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07019940790074997076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1879192449061145204.post-43686963339909322582010-11-10T07:47:21.827-05:002010-11-10T07:47:21.827-05:00I respect you and your honesty. Much better to be ...I respect you and your honesty. Much better to be honest than tell untrue stories.<br />Trust. That's lacking today's world.BLOGitsehttp://www.blogitse.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1879192449061145204.post-9378713827638973132010-11-09T21:20:18.211-05:002010-11-09T21:20:18.211-05:00well, for years, i told my mom that we had to suck...well, for years, i told my mom that we had to suck it up and deal with this ourselves.<br /><br />but in the last 6 months or so of his life, i honestly decided that we couldnt handle it anymore. i even talked with my grandfather about it, and he seemed to understand how much work he was to deal with, and seemed ok with going into a home. he never wanted to be a burden. i dont know if i ever would have gone thru with it, but in the end, my mother was surprisiongly the one who said we should stick it out.<br /><br />and im glad we did. he died at home. not in the way i would have preferred, but at least he was home.Slydehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02170343849186268727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1879192449061145204.post-90979905240353840252010-11-09T15:30:08.171-05:002010-11-09T15:30:08.171-05:00Slyde... this is the most gut wrenching thing I...Slyde... this is the most gut wrenching thing I've ever had to do. <br /><br />How do people get through it? How did you survive? How did your mom? God... this totally sucks.Susan Higginshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07019940790074997076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1879192449061145204.post-78308487002842691092010-11-09T14:54:40.137-05:002010-11-09T14:54:40.137-05:00well, no one can fault you for your decision one b...well, no one can fault you for your decision one bit. you have gone above and beyond in your dedication as a caregiver.<br /><br />i for one can attest to the toll it takes on a person...Slydehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02170343849186268727noreply@blogger.com